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Bereavement and grieving

The pain of bereavement is something we are all likely to face at some point in our lives, and your experience of grief and the grieving process may be very different from that of someone else.

The way  you cope with or manage your grief is influenced by many many factors – such as your relationship with the deceased, how your loved one died, the way your parents and relatives dealt with death, and your own personality. Don't ever feel that there is a "right" or "wrong" way to come to terms with the passing of someone close to you, or that there is a timetable for grieving.

It might help to know that there are three main phases of grief:

  1. Initial shock or disbelief – not wanting to accept that a loved one has died
  2. Intense anguish and pain – difficulty in thinking about or planning for the future
  3. Resolution – coming to terms with life without a loved one

Most people go through all three phases, but for some the pain of loss may last much longer than for others, achieving resolution months or even years after the death.

When someone dies you may expect to feel shock, numbness and sadness, and to have bouts of weeping and sleepless nights. However, it's also common to experience what could be considered strange emotions and feelings while grieving, such as: 

  • detachment from reality
  • anger
  • guilt
  • loss or gain in appetite and weight
  • preoccupation with the deceased, or believing you can see or hear your loved one

All of this is normal. You can't force yourself to recover. Allow yourself time and space to grieve, and don't be afraid to accept the support of family and friends. 

How we can help

Our funeral directors and staff can provide whatever practical assistance you need at this time. They are all highly professional, sympathetic and approachable, with long experience of supporting grieving relatives and friends by taking on the arrangements and organisation of the funeral process.